Relationship Counselling in Perth
Relationship counselling can help you rebuild yourself and build a stronger foundation for your relationship
Many individual’s embark on counselling for relationship difficulties when they notice similar insecure patterns re-occurring, causing relationship breakdown.
Are you suffering from the same relationship difficulties causing breakdown in your relationships?
Breakdown in relationships have their origins in earlier attachment disturbances and are re-played in adult relationships, where their earlier pain is re-enacted. Many lack the belief that partners will be there for them, stemming from their past attachments and are suspicious that lovers will abandon them, so they are constantly looking for this and trying to avoid it. For instance, many clients will say they felt loved and wanted at the beginning of their relationship, but somehow their partner is no longer there. They are confused as why this pattern keeps replaying itself in relationships, where they feel alone. They often feel that there is something wrong with them, so they seek re-assurance or want answers from their partner. When a spouse is no longer accessible in a relationship, the individual may try to draw them back in, with a range of defensive manoeuvres, to ward off past pains of rejection. Sometimes these protective strategies actually push their partner further away. Some react to perceived signs of rejection, becoming angry or accusatory, to ward off feeling of hurt, creating relationship difficulties. Many act jealous or insecure by reading into things that are not even there, since they may have insecure attachment and mistrust relationships, stemming from feeling unworthy. Many cannot get touch with these inner feelings and act angry, jealous, possessive or controlling of their partners whereabouts; instead of show they’re fearful of getting hurt. So their partner becomes afraid, drained, and finds ways to get space, until it pushes the partner away. Sometimes it further escalates into fights or breakup. Perth’s relationship counselling services for individuals can deal with ways to manage these difficulties, by working through these relational dynamics, so they do not re-occur.
Many of these styles of relating are often out of our awareness, until they repeat themselves over again. Psychotherapy and relationship therapy can help those uncover these relating patterns so they can see how they are no longer protecting them, but working against them.
How to deal with relationship difficulties that cause relationships to breakdown
Our earliest internal experiences of relationships forms the templates of how we see relationships, of whether we can trust others to be there for us or not. If we felt ignored, we might feel unwanted of love and may pine to be be good enough or loved, but fearful that being in a relationship can lead to feelings of not being good enough and reading into things this way. If we could not trust those to be there for us, this may lead to reacting to perceived situations of abandonment, evoking old feelings of worthlessness, in a way that may re-create relationship breakdown.
Healing inner-child wounds to break free from relationship patterns
Some people have left a marriage but continue to feel hurt and anger. Others find break up’s are hard to get over and cannot move on. Psychotherapy allows those to explore their relationship patterns to better understand the part they play in the couple union. Counselling for relationship difficulties can assist those to process these responses, so they can move forward with life, let go.
Don’t let repetitive relationship disturbances hold your life back
Leaving home, moving in together, birth of a child, separation, formation of step families and retirements, are all life transitions that can become difficult, since they evoke loss or separation fears. Relationship difficulties occur if these events are not successfully negotiated . Sometimes individuals require counselling adjusting to these events and process them, so they do not become stuck at these difficult points in the life cycle. Therapy or psychotherapy often explores areas of stuckness, so that a smooth transition can occur.
If you want to overcome relationship issues contact us
At Counselling in Perth, many individuals seek counselling when they notice similar relationship behaviours. They ask themselves why they end up in abusive relationships, have difficulties with being alone or being disappointed in relationships. In relationship counselling, many begin to see the part they play in relationships.
When emotional pain remains unresolved, from our earliest relationships, it becomes re-created with our partners, until the emotions are resolved with therapy for relationships. In the course of psychotherapy, individuals who shut out their hurt or pain previously, ended up re-experiencing it in some way in their adult encounters. These disavowed feelings, do not go away. They remain dormant and become internalised into our psychic make up. Defensive coping behaviours occur as an attempt to rid oneself of these feelings or putting them on to our partners.
Counselling in Perth’s therapy for relationship difficulties can assist individuals to rebuild the ‘self’, so that the individual can handle unwanted emotional states, allowing the ‘self’ to be more cohesive, stable and integrated.
Relationship counselling helps to identify and resolve underlying issues
Providing relationship counselling in Perth, Nancy knows that avoiding underlying feelings, the ‘self ‘ stays impaired and does not grow. An impaired sense of self has a draining impact on the marriage bond and causes many relationships to breakdown. On the other hand, a cohesive self means that each partner does not take emotionally from the other, instead, partners can enhance each other’s sense of self, for a healthy relationship to emerge. As a relationship counsellor in Perth, Nancy also assists with communication methods to de-escalate the conflict in couples therapy, when joint issues are pre-dominate.
Relationship therapy promotes the self to develop, by attending to one’s own needs and not giving them up, addressing issues that concern them and not relying on others to take responsibility for them or take care of them. When one can meet their own needs by attending to themselves, they can be offer what the relationship requires, in order to form a strong foundation in their relationship.
Counselling for relationships promotes intimacy
In Perth relationship counselling, individuals learn how to overcome self-defeating and destructive relationship patterns. The most harmful behaviour in relationships is the result of discharging unwanted feelings out and projecting these intolerable feelings onto others, who become affected by them. These feelings are so terrifying that they lose grip of seeing themselves and others, when they ward off these feelings. Yet, many do not see the impact of their reactions and the harm it causes, by not sorting out these feelings.
Many are afraid of intimacy with mistrust and jealousy due to fears of abandonment and feeling unlovable. They relive the feeling of never getting their needs met, being alone, which can feel safer than risk getting hurt. These feelings, often, belong to the past, become forgotten and unconsciously become awaken, as they distort how see our partner and relate to them.
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